The Womanizer Was So Good I Passed Out the First Time I Tried It

As SELF previously reported, sex toys can pass along STIs, so safer sex practices apply here. If you’re using a sex toy with someone outside of a sexually monogamous partnership, put a condom over your toy. Condoms are also key if you want to use a toy for both vaginal and anal stimulation (which you can do as long as the toy is safe for anal, a.k.a. it has a flared base). With that being said, each clit is as unique as a snowflake and should be treated as such, according to Lexington, Kentucky-based marriage and family therapist Juliana Hauser, PhD. “Discover if your glans (clitoral tip) likes light vibration or a stronger speed,” she says.

This, combined with its 10 vibrating modes, makes the body massager adaptable for numerous purposes on all kinds of bodies. The Hula beads have multiple uses, stimulating both the G-spot and the clit. You can use this waterproof model in the bathroom, as well as the bedroom and public places.

The Hitachi, meanwhile, may not look cute at first glance, but that wand is recognizable anywhere. The classic look has been around for more than 50 years; when a sex aficionado sees a white toy with blue accents, they know right away it’s the Hitachi. The Doxy, for example, can be highly personalized and comes in bright purple or pink. If you want a wand that’s a little extra, the Doxy could be for you.

A lot of toys have multiple settings, and that often allows you to turn up and down the intensity, speed, and/or pattern of vibrations. While it might be tempting to crank your toy all the way up (and you should totally do that when you’re ready to, even if that is , in fact, right away), you can also experiment with bumping up the intensity gradually. Though most people refer to the bean-shaped area at the upper crest of the vulva as the clitoris, New York City-based board-certified obstetrician-gynecologist Monica Grover, MD, says it’s just the beginning of this sensitive zone. “The external clitoris is located above the urethra and where the bilateral inner labia meet,” says Dr. Grover. This toy has a whopping 10 contraction rings inside it, for some serious stroking. The Onyx+ can be used for long-distance play, like the Lovense Max 2 above, by syncing up with another Kiiro sex toy (like the brand’s Pearl 2 vibrator) and replicating how your partner’s using it.

The controls are accessible and easy to use, and the long battery life won’t let you down. It’s on the larger side but if you’ve got space in your bedside drawer then we would recommend treating yourself to this one. While vibrations can feel good just about anywhere, you may want to prioritize rabbits with an internal arm that offers rotation, thrusting, or some other kind of motion.

These vibrators’ small size is actually their biggest benefit, as they are some of the most discreet sex toys—and travel-friendly too, as they’re easy to slip into a clutch, purse, or even be worn as jewelry (really!). You can always keep one close to you when on the go, just in case the mood strikes when you least expect it, and their unassuming shape and lower price point make them excellent vibrators for beginners. This quiet bullet vibrator features rabbit ears that can create a range of sensations against your clitoris. “You can let the ears graze and flutter against your body for lighter sensation, use the two ears to surround sensitive tissue, or put the toy’s body directly on your hot spots to enjoy the deep and penetrating rumble,” says Finn.

The Pulse Solo Essential is the most pared-down model the brand makes, but if you want a version with a few more cool features (like a remote control) check out the Pulse Duo Lux instead. That’s why the Lelo Ina Wave 2’s game-changing Wave Motion technology makes this rabbit one worth writing about. Mashable culture reporter Jess Joho called the toy “the best that rabbit vibrators have to offer,” and that’s because the internal part of the vibe actually moves inside you vibrator, replicating a “come hither” motion. And as gimmicky as it sounds, it actually works pretty freaking well in providing internal stimulation. Thanks to the compact design, it’s ultra discreet and will fit into the palm of your hand nicely – a particularly popular feature among our testers. One of our panellists noted that it didn’t look like a sex toy, so you can easily carry it around with you.

Heavy-handed strumming confirms that the Gold Label 814e is capable of being very loud. It also highlights a pronounced midrange that, for all the guitar’s string-to-string balance, can be a bully if you have a heavy touch. If your approach is more varied and sensitive, though, the extra volume becomes headroom and the midrange becomes a chrome shine set against a dusty desert patina. A light touch can still generate detailed, complex overtone pictures, while the high headroom accommodates and inspires high-contrast high-intensity counter phrasings. Say the word “vibrator,” and visions of a cylindrical, buzzing thing will undoubtedly come to mind. And while this dildo-like toy is what a lot of people are referring to when they talk about a vibrators, phallic objects really only comprise one branch of the larger vibrator tree in the diverse and beautiful garden of sex toys.